I have a saying at my office, “if it isn’t in writing it didn’t happen.” Of course with the prevalence of video cameras in public places and phone cameras, even hidden cameras, the saying is not completely true. Still, I have had countless business and estate disputes in my office because someone did not get an agreement or promise in writing. When it comes to the transfer of property upon death, your wishes must be in writing.
Texas law requires that wills be in writing and contain necessary language to be enforceable. A friend of mine has allowed me to share her true story. She just lost her inheritance in a long court battle. I was not her attorney in this case. There would have never been a battle if her mother’s true wishes were put into a proper Will.
My friend, who we will call LeAnne (named changed for privacy), moved from her home and life in another state to Texas to take care of her mother, who at the time had terminal cancer. She spent day after day caring for her mother. LeAnne has three siblings who would often visit and were supportive. On several occasions, LeAnne’s mother promised her that she and her daughter could have mother’s house when she passed. LeAnne took several video taped conversations with her mother, saying she could have the house. LeAnne’s mother also wrote several notes saying that LeAnne and her daughter could have the house to live in when she passed.
As LeAnne later came to find out, LeAnne’s brother came to the house, while LeAnne was away, with a lawyer and they drafted a trust document and a Will that gave everything to all 4 of her children equally. LeAnne’s mother said many times to her, after the signing of the Trust and the Will, that she did not understand what she was signing and she simply trusted her son. Needless to say, when LeAnne found out about the trust and Will she confronted her siblings, showed them the video and notes, but they were unmoved.
After mom passed away, what ensued was a two year court battle over whether the Trust was valid and whether LeAnne should get the house. Of course the biggest problem was the written Will and Trust. Trying to prove someone did not have the proper mental capacity to execute a Will or a Trust is very difficult thing to do. And what was so difficult for LeAnne to deal with, was that she had video and handwritten evidence showing mom’s real wishes. As it is said, hind site is 20/20. When LeAnne’s mother, while of very sound mind, asserted that she wanted LeAnne and her daughter to have the home, mother should have called an attorney to draft a proper will. The will signing ceremony should have been video taped, and the will could have been filed with the county clerk. Texas law does not recognize oral or video taped Wills, and if a court did accept one, it would be in very limited circumstances. You cannot rely on a note or a video.
LeAnne did not have the money to hire a firm and put on a proper case. She did most of the legal work herself. The siblings that were fighting her, by virtue of the Trust, had access to the estate money and could hire a prominent law firm. LeAnne ultimately lost the house and she was forced to move out of the home. The family won a judgment against her, essentially for the attorney fees paid by the family to the tune of over $90,000.00 dollars. This money most certainly will come out of her share of the estate.
It is a classic case scenario that when a parent becomes infirm, a sibling moves in with the parent to care for them. Make sure, as a family, that the sibling is compensated through their estate distribution or in some other fashion. LeAnne could have also entered into a contract for compensation with her mother as a care giver, if she was qualified. Put your wishes in writing. If your parent promises you a specific gift, politely assert and remind your parent that it should be in their Will to be legally enforceable. The Will can then be discussed with all the family members, and disputed issues can be resolved while the parent is healthy and of sound mind.


